Let’s talk about getting sick when you are just getting going with your business. This post is inspired by a lot of women entrepreneurs I’ve been talking to lately. A few of them came to me for Haritaki yoga work to understand better those health expressions. I’m going to demystify a few things today why those things come up and hopefully help you to notice these things, heal these things, and understand these things with compassion.
We’ve all had experiences when our body said “no.” Maybe you were the kind of child that had anxiety in school. You may not have even know the name of it at the time, but you commonly experienced stomach flu symptoms on test days. Your body actually manifesting a health symptom, a health condition, a health expression that would keep you from facing an anxiety-provoking situation.
I was that kid. I got sick a lot when I was in school. I missed a good number of school days and I was legitimately sick. Although I wasn’t actually sick, I experienced symptoms as if I was! In those days, people didn’t talk about school anxiety. They had no idea that part of the treatment for school anxiety is school.
Let’s talk about how this applies to us showing up in the world and then conquering these symptoms that are completely legitimate.
I’d like to clarify that in no way am I suggesting any kind of a foul play here. Nobody is faking their sickness, but I am talking about serious health expressions that come up as manifestations of our subconscious mind, which is actually the body, being uncomfortable with something.
Listen to your Body
There are two types of messages that our body sends to us. Number one: the body may be indicating that this is a wrong direction for you. It is saying no for a legitimate reason. Let’s say you are considering partnering with somebody and every time you think about you get a funny feeling or you get sick just before that meeting. It may be a sign that this is a wrong direction or it may be a sign that it is a right direction and if you take it you will actually, you have a great likelihood of experiencing success and that is scary. I talk about it a lot. You can revisit my earlier posts for explanations of why success feels like mortal danger because, well, it has always been unsafe for women to show up fully and be successful and it remains so in many ways. Our bodies, by creating these health expressions, are protecting us from showing up fully.
How can you determine whether it’s your intuition telling you, “This is a wrong direction for you,” or if this is self-sabotage created by your subconscious mind to protect you from being successful.
Well, you ask. You ask your body.
In the Haritaki yoga method, I use this practice called “body talk.” In essence, the way you practice it, you get relaxed, you get grounded, you tune right into that area of the body that is experiencing that health expression. Let’s say it’s in the throat or in the back or it’s in the abdominal area and you inquire with it.
What is this about for me?
It is very important not to judge anything that’s coming out, which may come out through words, images, memories, sensations. Just collect the data as a good scientist and journal about it because the answers may continue coming up as you go to sleep, in your dreams, and throughout the day. You may be receiving different pieces of information to inform you more about what’s going on.
I have a couple of stories to share with you about these manifestations.
I once had a client who came to see me after having seen, a countless number of doctor. He was having the symptoms of what he thought was a heart attack and he went to every cardiologist he could find. All of his tests were clear but he was having these intense pains. He was convinced he was going to have a heart attack. Quite a number of people around him have had heart attacks and some of them died so he was actually very, very scared. They kept telling him, “Well, maybe it’s in your head,” but it was a legitimate painful condition.
When he came to see me we did this practice on uncovering his heart’s desire and it turned out that not only he was not living his heart’s desire, it was so deeply buried. He was living the opposite of that. He hated his job, just hated it with a passion, and his heart’s desire was in the Arts. He was doing something completely opposite of that. Once I helped him overcome that initial anxiety and then it didn’t take much time at all to actually start putting himself out there with his art, his condition resolved.
Here is a disclaimer; I’m not a medical doctor. If you’re having a health expression, ALWAYS go see a doctor. What this guy was experiencing was one kind of a health expression. I’m going to call this the ice kind of an expression; the kind that freezes you. It freezes you in action but it indicates that there is something underneath bubbling up.
Then there is the fire kind of an expression, which I see a lot. I actually see a lot of both ice and fire in women entrepreneurs. The fire-y kind is you’re working very hard, you are putting yourself out there, you are hitting the marks. You are making strides and you’re actually very successful from the outside looking in, but inside, you’re experiencing adrenal fatigue. You’re experiencing back aches, thyroid issues, and unexplained weight gain.
It pains me to even name these because I see so many women suffering from this.
I AM VERY CURIOUS AS TO IF YOU RECOGNIZE OR SUSPECT THAT MAYBE SOME OF YOUR HEALTH EXPRESSIONS MAY BE OF THE ICE KIND WHERE THEY FREEZE YOU IN AN ACTION.
For example, every time you are about to create your free opt-in offer, you freeze and you experience some kind of physical discomfort. Common conditions of the freeze kind include migraines because the energy goes to the head and is not expressed through the action. Heaviness in the chest, issues in the throat area, and may more symptoms can arise.
MAYBE YOU’RE EXPERIENCING SOMETHING OF THE FIRE VARIETY WHERE YOU’RE WORKING HARD BUT YOU’RE ON THE VERGE OF BURNING OUT.
Your doctor may have already told you that you might have adrenal fatigue. What’s also common in the fire-y expression is anxiety and sometimes panic attacks.
PLEASE EXPLORE WHATEVER’S GOING ON WITH YOURSELF AND SHARE WITH ME IN THE COMMENTS. I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU.
The last thing I’m going to say, as always, that it is not your fault. Your body is trying to protect you from something that it experiences as dangerous and that is thousands of years of conditioning and oppression of women. Your nervous system is very, very smart and it is designed to protect you. It’s doing it very, very well. Absolutely nothing is wrong with you. In fact, next week, we’re going to talk about everything that you might have heard was wrong with you. We’re going to reclaim that and we are going to look at it differently. We’ll reclaim those things that the society told you were wrong with you as your greatest gifts. That’s in fact something that I just did with a VAP client just this past weekend and we had so much fun and we reclaimed her absolute bad-assery.
More to come. Please stay close and stay in your heart.